I have just begun work on the blog sites for my parents and my hubby's parents. Frankly, I hadn't done so just to create a "lest we forget" Internet monument to four archetypal parents. I really wanted to provide venues for reflection on what we understand about our moms and dads.
Barring the two or three posts to jumpstart these blogs, I don't intend to be the primary contributor. Just thought that my siblings, siblings-in-law, and I have reached a point in life where we have done enough living and observing of our fellow men to come to some understanding and wisdom. No matter what the dynamics were in our individual relationships with our parents, negative or positive, surely now we can see how everything fits in the scheme of things that we call "life."
As younger adults, we were all so busy "getting and spending" and jockeying for position in the human rat race. Now in advancing middle age or beyond, we have the time for some serious reflecting and evaluating. Most of us are parents and grandparents ourselves, and I bet there isn't a one of us who hasn't seen one or both of our parents in ourselves in the way we have interacted with our children-- an action here, a reaction there that validate our common gene pool.
Even if we aren't parents, we all share that same "switch" in our consciousness that turns on the light of transcending awareness that we truly are our fathers' and mothers' children.
The resulting conclusion--at least mine, anyway-- is that it's all good, even the bad. I mean what I say in the biblical sense of "good." Can't I substitute "just" for "good"?
We have seen and sampled enough trees to turn our study to the forest.
Our parents have/had virtues and vices, beauty marks and warts, yet the sum of their parts is admirable (in our mothers' case, almost saintly). All four of them lived through the horrors of war. They emerged from their crucibles stronger and more resilient people than their children can hope to be.
We can stuff that thought in our pipes and smoke it.
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Mom & Dad, the picture - Tess is it during the time when we all celebrated their "50th Golden Wedding Anniversary on February 8th, 1991?" Just yesterday I was looking through my endless array of videotapes looking for the video segments that sister Loretta had taken of Laura and my wedding back in Nov 29th,1986 trying to remember the song that Mike Deleon sang for Laura and I for our 1st dance. I wanted to try and retrieve it on Limewire and add the song to my MP3 player when I stumbled upon the video of Mom & Dad's 50th. Just after the video that I had patched together brother Alex spoke most eloquently bringing it all together. Then Dad, our Patriarch spoke. I've always looked at dad as being so charismatic in personality and the ultimate reconteur of telling stories. I had my boys watch because they didn't know much about their Grandpa and Grandma Nasis. When I had read the sniglet of the story that Tess wrote about her and her mother. I kind of felt a strong sense of longing that I wished my boys could have gotten to know their grandparents, my mom & dad. When Laura,Bradley, and I lived with them for the one year as we prepared to buy another home, I got to live and understand mom and dad as an adult. I began to understand the man and the woman that raised me into the man I am now. I remember I was so full of myself knowing that God has blessed Laura and I with a son, a grandson for my mom and dad to love and for me to take the highest pride in. The story Mom and Dad had told Laura and I during our time living with them was about a special blessing in the Philippines. We were told that should a married couple be blessed to give birth to three sons and then a daughter, they were to be blessed with wisdom and wealth beyond any other as their family grew. The three sons will grow up as prince's to carry on the family name and the daughter, the princess. We have been blessed with three sons but were not able to have another baby due to some complications due to medical. However, so far in our life, we have experienced wealth not in the monetary sense but in the sense of family raising our boys and being with them every step along the way. I see in Bradley, some of dad's ways. I yearn for continued health as my three boys grow into young men. Our boys have been fortunate to grow up knowing their Nannie & Papa, Laura's parents. They have also celebrated their 50th Golden Wedding Anniversary, and as we did with mom and dad, we got to witness this example of God's blessings. This is special to me because in growing up, I didn't have relatives, such as grandparents, uncles, aunties, cousins, etc. to grow up and help shape my life because they were all back in the Philippines. As our boyz continue to grow, Bradley - Nolan - and Mason, I know in my heart that mom and dad and also my sister Esther are watching from heaven. Thank you Tess for creating this avenue for those individuals who wish to stroll down memory lane. I Love you. Ed
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